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Photo by Laura Vecsey
Robbie Parker, the father of Emilie Parker, put on a suit and tie and addressed the public on Saturday. 

He was in visible grief, of course, but for a moment his face relaxed as he recalled their brief encounter Friday morning.

He has been teaching his daughter Portuguese – he did not say why -- and at six she went for it enough that she and her dad could conduct a conversation.

Good morning. How are you? -- the ritual between a parent and a child, perhaps for a purpose, or just the fun of sharing one of the world’s more beautiful languages.

“I gave her a kiss,” he said, “and I was out the door.”

When Robbie Parker went out the door Friday morning, all was right between them. They had that language in common.  

As Graham Nash wrote in the song, Teach Your Children: “So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.”

We need more than words. We need the connections, the daily acts, the time, the reminders, the bonds that say, “Eu te amo,” before we go out the door. 

 

 


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Brian Savin
12/16/2012 11:10pm

Your "one thought" is more precious than all the meaningless speeches by politicians pushing to the fore in a public intrusion upon such great private grief. I can understand those victims' families who didn't participate in Newtown this evening. I might well have sat home myself, far preferring to just cry my head off in the private company of beloved. And if I needed to read, it probably wouldn't be scripture. More likely Thornton Wilder. Something, as you so well understand, that can speak to my grieving gut.

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George Vecsey
12/17/2012 8:53am

Brian: Thanks. I think we do need public grieving, and I think the public figures who went to Newtown were appropriate. .
I haven't been able to watch much but I took my cue from Mr. Parker.
The public forum is going on Monday and beyond, and to me that is appropriate, too.

"If I am not for myself, who is for me? When I am for myself, what am I? If not now, when?"

GV

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Brian Savin
12/17/2012 3:51pm

And the other guy around at that time and place said, "Say little and do much."

Your guy offers proper guidance for community support, George; the other offers proper guidance for the politicians.

They won't do much, Alan, to address your post, though I hope you are right. Rapid fire and large magazines won't be touched. Maybe they'll ban bazookas and declare victory. Neither will they talk about rebalancing our current privacy extremes with welfare. Words, tons of them, come too easy in today's political world gone a cropper -- doing is everything. We'll see. I apologize for being so sad and bleak today.

12/17/2012 9:55am

Appropriate public grieving and sentiments expressed by George and Brian are heart felt expressions of sympathy.

However, it is long overdue for people in position of power to meaningfully address the issue of gun safety and go beyond mere rhetoric. Political greatness is the result of many factors, but courage to do what is right is paramount.

I suspect that a congress united on making a start to pass sensible legislation would probably not suffer at the polls.

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bruce picken
12/17/2012 10:59am

george,

unbearable to think about.

unfortunately, too many americans don't seem rational when it comes to guns. the argument about guns giving americans freedom is nonsense.i feel very free and i'm sure citizens of people all over the world feel just as free as americans do despite not having seemingly unlimited access to firearms.

it's hard to believe the contortions necessary to justify guns for everyone and the interpretation of the second amendment making it so.

it seems that america is government bh aphorism in the past 30 years.

bruce

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bruce picken
12/17/2012 5:08pm

TYPO--should be bY instead of bH.....

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12/19/2012 7:11pm

Amen. Thanks George

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02/14/2013 2:30pm

I really enjoyed reading through this post.Thank you.

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03/22/2013 6:59am

This was an interesting story, I would like to read more story like this one on your website.

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03/22/2013 7:00am

I enjoyed reading this article of yours, it really touched me in a way.

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04/23/2013 12:00am

That's good to create a community. So they can stick together and sharing some projects to others.

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